Over the years, I’ve used a lot of coping strategies to deal with the discomfort of being alive. Running and working really hard are two that come to mind. Meditation, alcohol, pot, extreme athleticism outdoors in the mountains and on the rock are others. Being in drama with or about someone else is a more subtle escape (hint: presidential election). Being in drama with myself.
But in the end, I’m left with the fact that living is an uncomfortable event.
So I’ve taken on a process for myself: lean into the discomfort. Instead of grasping for the illusion of happy, got it all together, getting numb or sticking my nose into your business, I’m exploring what it’s like to just hang out raw and vulnerable on my leading edge of being alive.
What’s that meme? “Shit just got real up in here.”
Instead of trying to fix myself, get better, or get more … instead of distracting myself or getting numb … I’m hanging out in the feeling of uncomfortable, not sure and whatever emotions come up, as they come up.
And I might even tell the truth about it, to myself and to others, as I am feeling it.
Your dream is your dream, you can’t escape it. Either your living it, struggling with it or stuffing it back down. But either way, your dream is going to keep clawing its way out of you.
Actually, your dream isn’t yours. Passion is a spiritual force. All that talk about free will is misleading. You are here on this planet to be a conduit, an agent, for the passion to express itself through you.
Desire is “of the sire”. It is the will of a higher power moving through you.
Your only “choice” is to go with the flow of the passion running through you or to resist it. But either way, that river continues to move downstream.
Having spent most of my life learning to get “stronger” and safer, it’s still a little weird learning how to open up and become more emotionally exposed and vulnerable.
I call it a posture of defenselessness. Giving up the idea that there is anything to defend. As I have found, all of my defenses were ultimately forms of attack. Keeping people away. Being right. Winning.
It’s counter intuitive and counter culture. It goes against most everything the mainstream culture seems to teach. But while being defensive might be “strong” it’s not powerful. Being defensive is numb. Being defensive is half dead.
Defenselessness … raw, open and vulnerable … now that is the doorway into true power. That is the path of the awakened warrior.
The people on the field are playing the game.
The people in the stands are talking about the game.
Talking is never playing.
And the talking has no impact on the field.
Teddy Herzog received his training and certification as an Integrative Holistic Coach through the Legacy Training Institute. The 6-month program requires the completion of five weekend Legacy Seminars with a minimum of 1500 coaching hours.