Heaven on earth

There are only two kinds of prayers: a prayer for heaven on earth and a prayer for hell on earth.
When someone is praying, however they do to whomever they do, the content of their prayer doesn’t reveal the kind of prayer that it is. Rather where the prayer comes from, where it is sourced from, determines the kind of prayer that it is.
“Dear powers that be, please give me money.” That’s a typical prayer, right? This type of prayer is sourced in “I don’t have money” or “I don’t have access to money” or maybe “money is difficult.” In this example, the prayer is about “hey powers that be, there is scarcity down here in my world.” So, it’s a prayer sourced in a vision of hell on earth.
Same with relationships. “Powers that be, please bring me a loving relationship.” That kind of prayer comes from a world in which there are no loving relationships to be had.
It’s like asking for rain while believing with all your heart that there is no rain to be found.
It’s also quite popular for people who are not much for prayer in the first place to give it a go when they are sick. Like, why not, right?
Maybe getting sick and dying is healthy and natural. Just saying. Seems like it’s at least normal and guaranteed.
U.S. presidential election. You be the judge. Is that sourced in a vision of heaven on earth or a vision of hell on earth?
On the street, prayer is about “what can I get?” It’s about “hey, I need a special deal here.”
But what if, at a higher level of understanding, prayer is really about “what can I give?”
In our men’s group, we sometimes talk about a man standing in his masculinity like a man standing in his kingship planting a flag in the ground stating that “this shall be so!” It’s a declaration. A promise. A speaking of the word.
What if prayer is really a speaking of the word between you and the powers that be?
What is the word that you are speaking?
What is the flag that you are planting in the earth today?
Right now, in this moment, are you invoking heaven on earth or are you a stand for hell on earth?

When I was younger, I wanted to change the world.
I must be older now.
More and more, I find that my work is to accept the world exactly the way that it is.
And isn’t.
The American dream promises that there is somewhere to go and something to do.
But there isn’t.
We are already there and it’s already as good as it’s going to get.
There is deep wisdom in accepting the fact that this is how it all turned out. That’s what I call personal freedom. Allowing this world to be exactly the way that it is.
Because it is.

Playing with the the idea that to be “spiritual” is to be in my body.
The last 500 years of philosophical thought has slowly pulled us out of feeling our feelings and being deeply connected to everything into the disease of “the separation” of thoughts.
You know, René Descartes’ “I think, therefore I am”.
More and more, I like the idea that there are two worlds: the world of the dead which is lived inside of your head and the real world which is lived inside of your animal body.
“God is out there.” “Other people are out there.” “I am over here and separate.” This is the myth of “the separation” that, somehow, religion also promotes.
But, actually, God is in here. I am God. You are God.
There was a time, not very long ago, when you could get legally killed for saying that. You know, the truth.
Like the quantum physicist said, “there is no out there, out there.”


Last night at my men’s group, I got in touch with a foundational level of sadness that has been with me at least since I was 8 years old. All of my “adult”, success, achievement and whatever has, over the years, been built on top of this level of sadness.

I think that most of us spend most of our lives “getting motivated”, reaching for happy, being successful or otherwise getting distracted in a way that has us avoid the what’s going on deep down below inside. There’s a cultural agreement around me that happy is good and sad is bad. Just be happy. (Hat tip: Pharrell Williams)

But I am an excavator. (By the way, the photo below is a new garage in the Berkeley Hills that we did close to Indian Rock. Huge views of the Bay too.)

Right now, I am a whole lot more about getting real and reaching for peaceful. The path towards peace walks straight through what is real.

“Happy” may happen on top of sadness like a new varnish over an old oak floor. But peaceful and joyful are deeper underneath. The only way out of the sadness is to go through it.

I could give you stories about the personal experiences that are at the source of my deep foundational level of sadness. But more so, I think that I learned it from the adults around me as a kid. If I want to, I can get triggered back to it everyday watching the “adults” running the world together today.

In my 20’s and 30’s, I was quite content to operate on top of and to varnish over the unfinished emotional business hidden down below. But as I like to say, many of us are scheduled for a mid-life transition right around 42 years of age. “Happy” and “successful” just isn’t real enough anymore. It is time to go deeper.

That’s what makes me a great coach for deep emotional work. I am willing to go there and I do go there myself.

I can’t do much about “the problems” of the world “out there.” But I am able to take a deep look at “the problems” of the world inside of here. I can get real with myself. I can dive deeply into the currents of my own emotional world and tell the truth about it.

I am a deep see diver. Again and again, I go down deep within myself to feel what is real. Again and again, I am willing to take a real good honest look.

As I’ve found for myself, there’s not much I can do about the world “out there.” But there is plenty that I can do about my world “in here.” To the extent that I follow or gossip about “the news” and “them”, I am in fact distracting myself from the real work to be done deep within myself.

You know what, I probably will listen to Pharrell Williams’ song “Happy” today. And I will also take a deep look inside at the deep foundational level of sadness that I’ve been living on top of for over four decades now. I know that there is something below that has been waiting for me to find yet again. But the way out of the sadness is through it.

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Allowing versus forcing

My mastery in old house renovation relies in part upon the knowledge that I can accomplish far more with the soft tap of my hand than with the hard smack of my hammer.

My mastery in old heart renovation as a relationship coach similarly relies upon the ability to encourage rather than to persuade. You can’t coerce, entice or manipulate a flower to blossom. You can, however, allow a flower to blossom.

Nothing or lasting value ever came from persuasion, coercion, enticement or manipulation. Forcing something breaks it.



“At this level of awareness, a major transformation takes place, with the understanding that one is oneself the source and creator of the experience of one’s life. Taking such responsibility is distinctive of this degree of evolution, characterized by the capacity to live harmoniously with the forces of life.

All people at (lower levels of consciousness) tend to be powerless and see themselves as victims, at the mercy of life. This stems from a belief that the source of one’s happiness or the cause of one’s problems is “out there.” An enormous jump — taking back one’s own power — is completed at this level, with the realization that the source of happiness is within oneself. At this more evolved stage, nothing “out there” has the capacity to make one happy, and love isn’t something that’s given or taken away by another, but is created from within.

This level is not to be confused with passivity, which is a symptom of apathy. Acceptance allows engagement in life on life’s own terms, without trying to make it conform to an agenda. There’s emotional calm with Acceptance, and perception is widened as denial is transcended. One now sees things without distortion or misinterpretation; the context of experience is expanded so that one is capable of “seeing the whole picture.” Acceptance has to do essentially with balance, proportion, and appropriateness.

The individual at the level of Acceptance isn’t interested in determining right or wrong, but instead is dedicated to resolving issues and finding out what to do about problems. Tough jobs don’t cause discomfort or dismay. Long-term goals take precedence over short-term ones; self-discipline and mastery are prominent.

At the level of Acceptance, we’re not polarized by conflict or opposition; we see that other people have the same rights as we do, and we honor equality. While lower levels (of consciousness) are characterized by rigidity, at this level, social plurality begins to emerge as a form of resolution or problems. Therefore, this level is free of discrimination or intolerance; there’s an awareness that equality doesn’t exclude diversity; Acceptance includes rather than rejects.”

from “Power vs Force” by David R. Hawkins

Teddy Herzog received his training and certification as an Integrative Holistic Coach through the Legacy Training Institute. The 6-month program requires the completion of five weekend Legacy Seminars with a minimum of 1500 coaching hours.


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