We all play the victim card. I know that I do.
I “struggle” on a construction project from time to time. There are people and situations in my life in which “they did it to me”.
Victim is not a strong place for me. I don’t like it there (except when I do).
Victim as a way of being is clearly a popular game to play in our culture. It’s a safe, comfortable place.
You can survive reasonably well in victimhood. But you can’t thrive. And you will never get into “flow”.