My mastery in old house renovation relies in part upon the knowledge that I can accomplish far more with the soft tap of my hand than with the hard smack of my hammer.
My mastery in old heart renovation as a relationship coach similarly relies upon the ability to encourage rather than to persuade. You can’t coerce, entice or manipulate a flower to blossom. You can, however, allow a flower to blossom.
Nothing or lasting value ever came from persuasion, coercion, enticement or manipulation. Forcing something breaks it.