It takes two to tango in a relationship. What ever level of openness, communication, and connectedness your love partner is at, that’s exactly where you are at. Yes, they are your perfect mirror.
If you think they are a fixer upper project or they will be improved eventually, well, you are fooling yourself.
You will always pick a love partner who is, already, the perfect match for you.
My dad taught me that it takes two to tango. He also taught me that water seeks its own level.