If you are at all like me, it is easy to get trapped in subtle choices of what I “should” do, am “supposed to” be doing, and proving myself.
It is a subtle game because, for example, when I am making good money it feels right. At least for a while. I mean, “everybody knows” that making money is a sign of success.
The problem is that few of us define success on our own terms.
When the morning bird sings his song, is he successful? Kind of a silly question. By definition, success is achieving something that we think proves ourselves in someone else’s eyes. That’s why we worship celebrities – our modern day gods – because they represent the achievement of success. They may or may not have a lifestyle that you want but at least they appear to have a very public recognition that they are “successful”.
Inherently, success either occurs in the past or in the future. “Oh, look what I did!” Or else, “I am going to make it!”
In other words, success does not exist in real time. Success does not exist.
I am fairly sure that it is not just me. Even after all of this time and all of this personal work, there is a subtle hint of me looking over my shoulder and wondering about “what do they think” and “have I proven myself?”
Its a fairly deep inquiry. What are you doing today? Why? Is it because you “have to”?
Or is it the song that you sing whether anyone else is listening or not?